I meant to post this last week, but Lil C's dance troupe "The League of Extraordinary Dancers" (completely cheesy name? Yes) performed on the SYTYCD results show last night, and I have watched it approximately 6 times since then. Prepare to be amazed:
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
I Like...INSANELY talented dancers. And B-Boys. And Yellow Shoes.
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Labels: Holy Mackerel, SYTYCD
Friday, December 4, 2009
Find it, Feel it, Do it.
For your viewing pleasure:
It's so good to know that extremely inappropriately high cut leotards are necessary for "facial workouts."
Find that Boogie Body! Okayyy, boom chicka BOOM!
Happy Friday.
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Labels: crazy town, Friday, yikes
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Ahh, the dancing
I haven't been posting about TBSOFT aka The Best Show of All Time aka SYTYCD aka So You Think You Can Dance because let's face it, when the show takes place during the third semester of grad school, there just isn't time to write all-important, earth-shattering recaps that EVERYONE reads. Um. But anyway, I have been feeling pretty good about the season so far, but now it's the top 10 and I am starting to get attached to a few of the dancers.
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Labels: SYTYCD
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
7 Days of Thanksgiving - Day 7
This is probably a cop out because I have been baking and snacking and baking pretty much all day, so food is on my mind...but I am so thankful for it. I know I forget how HUGE it is to be able to talk about food as a given, as a "hobby" that I can indulge in whenever I want. I definitely forget what a privilege it is to be able to pull out my cookbook, mull over different recipes, imagine what kind of pie to make, and know that I can afford the ingredients.
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Labels: Holidays, nom nom nom
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
7 Days of Thanksgiving...Day 6
I am SO thankful for all of these people:


Extended family, friends, in-laws, they are all amazing! Even if they make weird faces, can't dance in a very coordinated fashion, and wear man short shorts. They are literally all over the world and I don't get to see them nearly as often as I'd like, but they are still my besties. I am also VERY thankful for things such as Gchat, iChat, and email that let me stay up to date with what's going in their crazy and amazing lives. Thank you for being so wonderful!
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Sunday, November 22, 2009
7 Days of Thanksgiving - Day 5
This is kind of related to yesterday's post, but I'm not cheating! Over the last three years, I have become acutely aware of how important it is to be a part of a community...To surround yourself, whereever you are and however you do it, with a group of people who care about something bigger than themselves, who are committed to caring about you and "keeping it real," as it were.
Despite what we tell ourselves and what the flashy billboards screaming "rugged individualism" tell us, we are not meant to go through life alone. We're not meant to struggle, make decisions, celebrate, or love in isolation. We can tell ourselves we're okay on our own all we want, but that doesn't change the fact that we need each other to give a hug, lend a hand, call us out, or help others together.
I honestly believe that being a part of the Convergence community has changed the direction of my life, and it has had a profound impact on the direction of my life with Scott as the Girgishmelsons (you have to have the "h" in there to make it sound right). It definitely played a big part in my decision to pursue a career in social work, and it has been so amazing to see how real, authentic, and powerfully changing life with God and life with others can be. Yesterday, I spent the morning helping set up for "ReThread," the free clothing store we do several times a year for the kids in the neighborhood. Families come in, are greeted with a smile and maybe a hug, and they get paired up with a "co-shopper" who takes them around to find the sizes they need and helps them try on clothes just like they would in a real "store." Yesterday, we gave out over 160 coats (I had to leave shortly after the store opened, but it was awesome nonetheless) to kids who would have otherwise been cold this winter. But as always, it is one of the most amazing feelings to look around and see this group of people who love each other dearly extending that love just as authentically to others.
The point of this isn't to say how awesome Convergence is or how "selfless" or "giving" these people are; it's simply me saying how thankful I am to be part of such a real community in the midst of a lot of "fake." They've seen me happy, sad, vulnerable, excited, inspired, scared, and everything in between...and I know they'll be there through everything else. Yesterday I had a scary thought: "What if we hadn't met them? What if we had just gone through the last 3 years alone?" What if we hadn't met them? I wouldn't have a lot of the passion for justice and true life with God that I have now, and I definitely wouldn't have laughed as much. I've probably gotten weirder, too. I don't know what our lives would look like, but I know for sure it wouldn't be this. And that's DEFINITELY a good thing.
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Labels: Convergence, fusion, Holidays
7 Days of Thanksgiving - Day 4
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Saturday, November 21, 2009
7 Days of Thanksgiving - Day 3
They sing "Yellow Submarine" without fail when we go on road trips. They yell at each other when the other one drifts into another lane while driving in the dark. They cheer for us when we do something great, cry with us when the world is ending, come to visit when we're sick, send us care packages, and embarrass us in public. The occasional dinner out or shopping trip is great, too. Just kidding.
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Friday, November 20, 2009
7 Days of Thanksgiving - Day 2
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Labels: Blah Blah Blah, family, Holidays
Thursday, November 19, 2009
7 Days of Thanksgiving - Day 1
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Labels: Blah Blah Blah, Holidays
Monday, November 9, 2009
Another One
Bah! I seriously can't stop playing this song. Love.
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Labels: music, song of the week
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Song Obsession of the Week - 90s Edition
For some reason this week, I've been going through my collection of awesome 90s music, jamming out to junior high/high school favorites like "Meet Virginia" and "Head Over Feet," and wait for it...Sister Hazel. I always do this with them - I forget about them and don't listen for like 2 years, and then one day I say SISTER HAZEL IS AWESOME, and then I listen to them non stop for 3 weeks. "Champagne High," "Killing Me," "All for You," they're all great. They played at Trinity's New Student Orientation concert my junior year, and they were AMAZING. Included in this concert: an awesome, acoustic, piano-ified version of "Best I'll Ever Be." Enjoy!
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Labels: music, song of the week
The Life of an MSIII on Surgery Rotation

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Labels: Blah Blah Blah, life updates, School
Thursday, October 29, 2009
I Like...PUMPKIN CUPCAKES!!!!!!
1 cup canned pumpkin puree - go stock up on this because apparently we are in the midst of the Great Pumpkin Shortage of 2009, no lie.
1 tsp. pumpkin pie spice
3/4 cup buttermilk
1/3 cup vegetable oil
4 large eggsMake as directed on box (omitting the water).
Whipped Cream Cheese Frosting
This is the recipe my friend gave me, and I kind of worked off of it based on how much icing I needed because this made WAY too much. Literally, it got me through 2.5 batches of cupcakes.
1 quart heavy whipping cream
8 ounces cream cheese - I ended up using a little more than this so stood up a little better
2 cups confectioner's sugar2 teaspoons pumpkin pie spice
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
Beat with electric mixer until stiff peaks form.
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Labels: Cooking, nom nom nom
I Like...Midterms. Oh, wait.
Huh? Is that just me?
Despite the craziness of school, we also had a bajillion other things going on, making for month full of fun but insanity as well. Sooo, here is a recap of October 2009, pictsha style:


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Labels: life updates
Friday, October 9, 2009
Also - Happy Friday
So after we baked pumpkin cupcakes yesterday (after I got home from the lovely ER), Hannah and I had a dance/singing party to this song:
Also, please see the real video (couldn't be embedded), complete with awesome angsty stares, chin beards, and theatrical hand movements.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AgH-jWCny9U
Don't judge me.
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Labels: music, song of the week
What If Oklahomans Knew How to Drive?
There is something you should know about Oklahoma. This place is like the tornado capital of the world, and when I am cowering in my closet, any self-respecting Okie is running outside to "feel the wind," as Scott would say. They are hard core.
However.
When a little rain decides to come to town, people FREAK OUT. AHHHH WHAT IS THIS RUNNING DOWN MY WINDSHIELD I MUST PULL INTO THE LEFT LANE AND GO 45 MILES AN HOUR ON INTERSTATE 35 AND BRAKE EVERY 1.8 SECONDS OR ELSE I WILL DIIIIIIIIEEEEEEEE!! I really think that's what they're all thinking. But that's besides the point.
So yesterday, I was driving myself down to Norman at roughly 8:00am for class. It was raining - not pouring, just raining - and people were freaking out, as usual. So I had the freaker outers on one side of me, and the crazies who are oblivious to anything who still think it's okay to go 85 miles an hour when it has been raining for a while, and the roads are quite slick. Somewhere in the middle, people - not 90-year-old slow, but not speed racer fast. It's possible, I promise.
I am dutifully merging into the middle lane where the left lane ends, but the crazies are racing down to the verrrry LAST possible second so they can get to the front of the line, because THAT will make them get to their destination wayyy more quickly. So the freaker outer in front of me is braking frantically, but not letting the crazies in, because that would just be wussy. But no, the crazy will not let them get the best of him after his dangerous and a-hole-like maneuvers to the front of the line, so he just decides to go. Ehh, they'll stop, ehh, I have room, ehh, who cares. EHHHH WE ALL SLAM ON OUR BRAKES AND BIG TRUCK BEHIND ASHLEY SLAMS INTO HER.
So there I am, on the side of the road, strangely calm but staring at the back of poor Rocky the Rav4 while the very nice man (Roy, by the way) who hit me is assuring me that he is a good person and takes responsibility for his actions and will call me with his insurance info as soon as he gets home.
All is ok - I have a pretty sore back/head/wrist, but paranoid husband made me go visit his ER doctor boss to get it all checked out (which, by the way, I learned it is a very bad move to tell the person who hit you that your husband has an ER doctor friend, woops). So I'm good.
But it made me think - what if Roy hadn't been so nice? What if he had just lost his job and didn't have insurance anymore? What if I was actually injured but didn't happen to know someone who could get me into the ER in 5 minutes instead of 8 hours? What if the accident was more severe and one of us got hurt? If he didn't have that piece of paper, I'd be in a hospital, desperately thinking about how on Earth I was going to pay the $50,000 medical bill. I know, I just got rear-ended, blah blah blah, but it made me think for a second about all the What Ifs, and how thankful I am that things played out the way they did. Because for a lot of people, they don't, and this incident that is an inconvenience to me would change someone else's life.
But hey, I got a great friend out of it - Roy calls me approximately 5 times per day. Yay Roy!
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Labels: Blah Blah Blah, life updates
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Song Obsession of the Week
1) So You Think You Can Dance is BAAAAAAAAAACK!!!!! Here's hoping to a more exciting season this time around.
2) SYTYCD always provides me with amazing music. Case in point:
Ahh John Legend, you are grand.
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Labels: song of the week, SYTYCD
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
An Ode to the Neighbors of 42nd Street
I live on 42nd Street
It is so very nice
We love our little house
And all the fun there is in Crown Heights.
We love to take walks at night
Or hang out at the Sip
Get some frozen yogurt, you ask?
It's oh so very hip.
But while we love our place a lot
I must go ahead and say
There are some weirdos on this block
And they get weirder every day.
There's Tony on the right
Who likes to rev his cars
He likes to kidnap our friends
And make them drive him to bars
(and stop for a whiskey coke at La Baguette and make them take him to pick up his whale steak).
There are the dudes down the way
Who like to party hard
They have a statue of a lion
And have parties with their bed in the yard.
There's Katharine and Thad on the left
They are our very good friends
We like to play Mario Kart a lot
And if you're playing Katharine, you're effed
Then there are the new ones
I don't even know their names
But they are bonafide crazytown
This isn't even a game
They like to sit on their porch
And they literally sit all day
Sometimes yelling, sometimes crying
Other times hitting people in the face
Sometimes they knock off a gas line
And they say it was because they were sweeping
But they are probably building a meth lab
And it will explode while we are sleeping
They pound on Katharine's wall all night
Screaming EFF YOU, EFF YOU, EFF YOU
They have large pitbulls who run around
And do not discriminate where they poo.
These lovely friends are leaving us
Tomorrow, or so they say
If they don't, their landlord will call the cops
And in jail for a while they will stay.
I love you, 42nd Street
Don't doubt it, I really do
But when will you stop throwing the crazy?
Hopefully very, very soon.
The End.
P.S. I know I should be the next poet laureate, you don't have to tell me.
P.P.S. IF YOU KNOW ANYONE WHO IS NOT A FELON AND IS LOOKING FOR A CUTE DUPLEX IN AN AWESOME NEIGHBORHOOD (seriously, it's great. super cute with sushi neko, VZD's, the wedge, etc very close), PLEEEEEASE SEND THEM OUR WAYYYY!
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Labels: crazy town, life updates, yikes
Saturday, September 12, 2009
I Like...COOKIES
What happens when Ashley has a lot of reading to do, a husband who is on call, and a free Saturday morning? Ashley bakes! (Ashley is not sure why she is blogging in the third person, but it reminds her of a high school basketball coach slash teacher who used to go entire classes speaking in the third person and it was awesome).
So a SUPER classmate of mine decided to be incredibly kind and bring cookies to our afternoon class on Wednesday...and they were amazing. I don't have her exact recipe, but I found a very similar one on the Holy Grail of cooking, aka AllRecipes.com, and they turned out very yummy. They are called Dishpan Cookies, but I don't really get that. For serious though, these cookies have like 13094 delicious things in them, so every bite is like a SURPRISE! Whatcha gonna get?!?! I don't know!!!
(Have I had a lot of coffee and sugar and cookie dough this morning, you ask? NOOOO!!!!!!)
Whatever, here's the recipe:
(The recipe on the website says it makes 72 cookies...I like cookies but I don't need 72 of them, so I cut the recipe in half).
1 cup margarine (but I used butter because margarine is weird)
1 cup white sugar
1 cup brown sugar
2 eggs
2 cups all-purpose flour
1 tsp baking soda
1/2 tsp baking powder
1/2 tsp salt
2 cups cornflakes cereal
3/4 cup rolled oats
1 cup flaked coconut
1 1/2 cups chocolate chips
1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
2. In a large bowl, cream together the margarine, brown sugar, and white sugar until smooth. Beat in the eggs one at a time, mixing well after each addition. Sift together the flour, baking soda, baking powder, and salt; stir into the creamed mixture until just blended. Then mix in the corn flakes cereal, rolled oats, coconut, and chocolate chips. Drop by heaping spoonfuls onto ungreased cookie sheets.
3. Bake for 8 to 10 minutes in the preheated oven, or until edges are lightly browned. Cool on wire racks..
YUM!
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Labels: nom nom nom
Song Obsession of the Week
Despite the minor fact that I am not going through a devastating breakup at the moment, I LOVE this song, and India.Arie in general. Heart.
(Excuse the stupid video, it's the only one I could find). Side note: why do people on you tube think that EVERYONE wants to watch them sing "covers" of songs to their webcams? I don't get it.
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Labels: music, song of the week
BAD Blogger!

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Labels: Blah Blah Blah, Politics
Sunday, August 23, 2009
The Episode of A Salad Gone Very, Very Bad (apparently)
Thursday night, we went to some friends' for a happy hour get together thingy, and then we went out to dinner afterwards (the place shall remain nameless because I have had otherwise great experiences there). Little did I know, the Wrath of Evil Effing Food Bacteria (that is the medical name, I found it in one of Scott's textbooks) was about to clench me in its terrible claws and keep me there for two days. Seriously, I have never been that sick. So sick that I was on the couch for 2 days and did not even want to play Rock Band. Yikes.
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Labels: Blah Blah Blah, life updates
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
I Like...Movies About Food

If you haven't seen the previews, the plot centers around Julie, who finds herself feeling quite aimless and unaccomplished on the verge of her 30th birthday. To remedy this situation, the obvious solution is to cook her way through Julia Child's cookbook in one year and start a blog about it. While Julie is doing this, we also get to see how Julia Child became Julia Child the Celebrity Chef, starting with her new life in post-war Paris as the bored but hilariously spunky wife of a diplomat. Being that I am of a younger generation than Julia's original audience (Scott and I were most definitely the only people in the theater under the age of 45, but what else can one expect at a 4:30 matinee about Julia Child?), I am not extremely familiar with Julia's show, but from what I have seen, Meryl Streep's portrayal is spot-on. Her goofy, self-deprecating humor is beyond funny, and I haven't laughed that hard at a movie in a while (okay, maybe in the Hangover, but for different reasons).
If you like movies, laughing, or food, you must go see this. In the midst of "films" like 2012 and Sorority Row that look truly, truly, gut-wrenchingly awful (WHO on Earth would pay money to go see a movie about plane crashes and bombings and the end of the world right now? For serious, people!), this movie is exactly what movies are supposed to be: engaging, heart-warming, and able to take you to a place full of pies, Paris, and omelettes being tossed about. Warning: it will make you very, very hungry, and it will make you seriously consider a career change in favor of attending culinary school. Go get your $40 together or whatever it costs nowadays for a ticket and move your bum to the theater this second, because you'll love it.
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Labels: Cooking, nom nom nom
Friday, August 14, 2009
I Like...Excuses
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Labels: nom nom nom, Weight Loss Challenge
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Song Obsession of the Week
Clearly, you can tell I heart Ingrid. Can't wait for her upcoming album!
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Labels: music, song of the week
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
I Like...Wankers
Note to self: Don't friend your boss on Facebook then write crazy I-hate-my-job-my-boss-is-a-wanker status updates. I mean, I'm sure it's easy to forget that the person who controls the fate of your livelihood can see anything you do or say and then go batsnap crazy and put it on the Internet for all to see. To prevent this, you might not add that person, OR you could just not be a psycho. That would PROBABLY be a good idea. Maybe.
Please read this, and let me just say...bahahaha.
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Monday, August 10, 2009
I Like...Food Parties
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Labels: Cooking, Friends, nom nom nom
Thursday, August 6, 2009
I Like...HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
Oh, Oklahoma, you make me laugh.
Apparently, a group of geniuses in Tulsa have decided to enter their city into the bid for...wait for it...the 2020 OLYMPICS. Yep. According to these geniuses, their city is competitive with Chicago, Tokyo, Madrid, Berlin, and all of the other major international cities who have hosted these games. Don't get me wrong, Tulsa is a very nice city - very hilly, green, lots of fun restaurants. But "lots" in Oklahoma terms.
Maybe they don't understand that when a city hosts the Olympics, they get at least 200,000 new people, need an 80,000-seat arena for opening/closing ceremonies, have to have hotel rooms to sleep all of these international tourists and media, should probably have an international AIRPORT, need more than two malls and some cowboy museums to keep said tourists busy while they're not at events, and need public transportation and metropolitan areas for people to eat and get around. But whatever, some of them can stay at Oral Roberts, some can stay at University of Tulsa, some can sleep on the 2 cruise boats they're going to bring onto the river, and they can bring in trailers and tents to sleep the rest.
That's right, Paris ain't got nothin on us. I'm SURE they're going to vote for Tulsa over Rome, Dubai, and Boston. Cuz we have real good fried chicken!
I'm not dissin, I'm just sayin'. Oklahoma, you're great in your own way, but wow.
Funny:
Bruce Plante Tulsa World Aug 6, 2009 |
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If Sparky McBellKick Wins This Thing, I'm Boycotting
Okay, we all know that I would never actually boycott the best show ever, but I will be pretty upset if Evan pulls this thing out...and I'm not gonna lie, based on the judges (fair, overdue, and accurate) ripping of him last night and the fanatical chanting of his name that occurred shortly afterwards, I won't be shocked tonight if Evan wins. Annoyed and yelling at my TV, yes.
Last night was pretty good as far as finales go, but I must admit I'm tired of seeing the jive (wasn't this Evan's THIRD time?) and Broadway. I was hoping for some crazy hard hitting hip hop (what happened to Krump this season?) or an off-the-wall jazz routine, and we didn't really get much. I did enjoy the opening group number, and Jeanine continued growing on me to the point where I think she might win, and I won't necessarily feel like Kayla got robbed, even though technically Kayla is stronger. Jeanine pulls out stuff that makes you go WOW I wish I could dance that beautifully and creatively that Kayla does not, such as this (skip through the interview portion:
jean 4 @ Yahoo! Video
And my favorite piece of the night was Mia Michaels' "Layers" routine for the two girls - just beautiful:
jandk 4 @ Yahoo! Video
The Paso Doble by Jeanine and Brandon was also a piece worthy of the finale, with a lot of jaw-dropping moves, and I think they definitely pulled off the characters and did it believably. Come to think of it, I actually think the only reason I felt "blah" about this finale was because Evan was in so many of the dances. GRRR. Someone please explain to me the growing annoyance I feel towards this chipmunk-cheeked, fedora-wearing young chap who is probably very nice in real life.
Sooo, here are my final predictions:
For the Win: Jeanine! I really think she's going to pull it off.
Who SHOULD Win: Brandon, because he has the whole combination - he is the best guy (and probably best period) by far technically, he pulls off every character and challenging role he's given, and he does it with a flair (and crazy death-defying leaps and dives) that makes you root for him.
In Fourth: Kayla, because despite her technical superiority, she hasn't connected as well as the others.
In Between: It's hard to say. Like I said, I won't be shocked if Evan wins or even beats out Brandon, but I also wouldn't be shocked if the majority of people watching the show finally realized last night that Evan cannot, in fact, dance as well as the other three on stage with him, and perhaps all will be well. So basically, anyone but Evan and I'm golden.
Hoo-rah for Season 6!
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Labels: SYTYCD
Monday, August 3, 2009
Yikes
Uhhh, so today, a good "friend" of mine (jk, love ya shnavs) informed me that she saw this video and immediately thought of me:
Song Obsession of the Week
Last week, I had the privilege of celebrating the end of my summer class at the delicious Norman institution known as Bison Witches. Mmmm. In addition to sandwiches that probably have crack or frog blood or something (is frog blood addictive? I don't know but it sounded good) in them and soups in bread bowls that make you want to chain yourself to your booth and NEVER LEAVE (or is that just me?), they apparently have very good taste in music. This has been on repeat ever since:
Thanks for the sandwich and the new song, witches.
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Labels: food, music, song of the week
Friday, July 31, 2009
I Like...Surprises
I believe I have mentioned my awful summer night class in which we eat pizza, watch movies about gangs, and get 403 emails per day from our professor (many of them completely indecipherable). Last night was the LAST CLASS, thank the sweet pickle, and it ended on a positively FABULOUS note. And by fabulous I mean we watched a 2.5 hour documentary about a pediatric cancer ward that detailed the lives of three kids with end stage cancer and their families. Most depressing movie in the history of the world, and oh wait, COMPLETELY irrelevant to a class about gangs. We were all very confused, and our professor tried to rationalize it by saying that the parents of these kids have to struggle with a lot of the same things that the parents of gang members do...umm. Really I think he was sick of listening to presentations and was out of movies.
But I digress.
The point is, there is this guy in my class, we'll call him O. He plays basketball and is 6'11", which made me sitting next to him hi-larious (I'm 5'2", yup). O comes to class some of the time, listens to his iPod all the time (yes, in class), carries full conversations with his fellow teammates and big shot football player friend while the professor is talking, and doesn't turn in assignments. Huh.
O brings family-size jars of apple sauce to class (yes, the huge size that you can only buy at Sam's or something) and eats the whole thing with a tiny plastic spoon. We learned that he can eat 4 pieces of pizza, a Big Mac and fries, and two ice cream bars in one sitting. O also carries a giant box of Froot Loops in his backpack and eats them quite noisily during movie time. He wears his sunglasses in class sometimes (but not during movies like his superstar friend). He is also very witty, says "Amen" a lot, and likes to shout BLESS YOU at the top of his lungs every time anyone sneezes. He has offered on several occasions for me to stand behind him and shuffle along while he walks out of class 2 hours before it ends (and I assure you, I would be completely hidden as he is humongous). Basically, he exudes "athlete," and carries off that persona quite well.
All of these things make O quite endearing and funny, and I initially wrote him off as a semi-thuggish, amusing dude who fit the stereotype of college athlete who doesn't care about school in every way. I'm not proud of that, but I did.
But. Wednesday night was the Horrible Night of Presentations, in which people got up and read the slides they had prepared two weeks before and lots of people slept or slipped out of class. Professor man called on O and asked him to come give his presentation, to which O replied that he didn't have a presentation to give (again, it was due two weeks prior to that). He would, however, be happy to go to the front of the classroom and talk about himself. Literally, that's what he said. We all laughed and prepared ourselves for a humorous "presentation" that he would make up as he went and get out of the assignment as a result.
O started off by telling us how he grew up in the worst part of a large city in the Midwest, and how he was standing next to his favorite older cousin when he was shot in the head on the street corner in a drug deal gone bad and had brains splattered all over him at the age of eight. He told us how he went home that day to his mom, who told him that the only way to survive their neighborhood was to become the toughest guy on the block, so he spent the next ten years doing just that. He started getting in fights with people, taking boxing lessons, growing to be almost 7 feet tall, and beating people up if they looked at him wrong in passing.
O told us how he came home from a fight one day in seventh grade to find his mother sitting in the dark on the floor of their living room, sobbing. When he asked her what was wrong, she informed him that she didn't know what they were going to eat for dinner. That there was no money. That the electricity had been cut off and she didn't know how she would get it turned back on before it got cold. At that point, O tells us, he decided that he couldn't let this happen again, and did the only thing he knew how to do: at age 13, he began selling crack.
After a few months of selling, O found out that he was quite good at this crack trade thing, and he experienced something he never had before: success. He told us how he is not proud of it now, but at the time he felt useful for the first time in his life. When he was dealing, there was enough food to go around every day. When he was dealing, there was always gas in the car, heat in the apartment, and a safe apartment to call home. When he was dealing, his mother could take her children to the doctor and not worry that she would be refused or taken advantage of because she couldn't pay. This new lifestyle was as addictive as the drug he dealt, and O quickly became wrapped up in it. At one point, during a deal that involved $300,000 of coke, a "friend" of his stabbed him multiple times in the stomach in a back alley - if O hadn't been able to crawl onto the street where a nice old man found him and took him to the hospital, he'd be dead.
Then came basketball. O's mother was desperate to get him out of this lifestyle, so she approached several basketball coaches in the area to try to find a school who would take him. Eventually, someone decided to take a gamble, and O started playing his junior year. This eventually led to a scholarship to a junior college in Texas, where O said he realized that there were "actually good people in the world." He realized that not everyone you pass on the street is out to get you, and some people actually care and want what's best for others. In his own words, "I had no people skills, I didn't know how to relate to others, all I knew how to do was fight, because that's all anyone ever did to me and that's what you had to do to survive." He learned how to function in society from basketball and a bunch of random people who reached out to him in a way that no one ever had before. He also realized that he was capable of acting kindly, and that he had the potential to be more than just another drug dealing statistic who dies before the age of twenty. This realization softened him, and he believes that living in this tiny, Southern little town literally saved his life, as ironic as that sounds. At the age of 21, Big O found his real life in Paris, Texas.
From there, O decided to really try this school thing, raised his grades, and won a scholarship to play basketball at OU. Here, he has a 3.4 GPA, is set to graduate a semester early, and plans on getting a master's degree as soon as he graduates. He told us that he is saving money to bring his mom and siblings to the South so that they can experience the life that he has found and get out of the 'hood. He wants to start speaking to youth about the possibilities that exist outside of drugs and gangs for kids like him.
By the end of this "presentation," several people were near tears, and I was feeling quite guilty for pigeon-holing him so quickly into the thug/slacker/athlete box, writing him off as someone who was just there to play basketball and didn't realize the importance of the education he was getting. But I was wrong, way wrong. For whatever reason, it's habitual for us to stereotype people and slap a label on them based on a few, selective pieces of information. The entire point of the career I've chosen is to dispel these stereotypes and fight against them, and yet I still do it more often than I'd care to admit (or even realize). However, it's way more fun to be wrong about these things and to be served with reminders of how little I know about people and how capable they are of bouncing back from lives that, by society's standards, are worthless or lost causes. I guess the point is to always be looking for these surprises, because there might be a heartrending story and a whole lot more behind those giant apple sauce jars, size 39 shoes, and boxes of Froot Loops.
Posted by Ashley at 11:50 AM 4 comments
Labels: Blah Blah Blah, Justice, Woops
I Like...Elvis?
Love Me Tender - Norah Jones
Cant Help Falling In Love - Ingrid Michaelson
Posted by Ashley at 9:19 AM 0 comments
Labels: awww, music, song of the week
Thursday, July 30, 2009
Disco fever, an awkward wedding, and Skippy needs to go home
AKA, my SYTYCD recap of the week. Overall, I still wasn't super impressed this week...as Nava the Dance Expert stated so accurately in our weekly group recap email, I think the disappointment has been in the routines this season, not necessarily in the dancers. So many of the dances just don't have the conceptual meat to carry the story combined with the WOW factor that so many from past dances have had...there's just an oomph factor that's missing.
Sooo, we'll start with the best:
Brandon and Kayla - I think these are the two best dancers left on the show, hands down. The contemporary routine was pretty and extremely well danced, and the choreography was pretty great, but I just couldn't feel connected to the whole mistress-of-a-married-man storyline. Drug addiction, breast cancer, AND extra-marital affairs? Come on people, this is a dance show, not a Lifetime Original Movie marathon! But they did a great job with what they were given. Their disco was pretty great (even though those death drops or whatever they look like looked quite painful), and they kept the energy up and nailed all of those crazy lifts, which most couples can't do without the audience thinking AHH SHE'S GONNA FALL ON HER FACE WHAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN. The synchronized arm shimmies or whatever you want to call them when she was on top of his shoulders was great...but I still couldn't help but compare it to the disco that Brandon and Janette did, because that was just completely awesome. I miss Janette.
Ade and Jeanine - I agreed with the judges on their samba, something just looked OFF. But the routine wasn't that great either. I did enjoy the Nap/Tab hip hop routine...and I think Jeanine definitely has the best solos of the girls (but Kayla is stronger overall). Ade is really good, but sometimes I feel like there's a disconnect between him and his dances. I don't know. Maybe he's not eating the music or feeling the music or sitting on the music with his ears or whatever Lil C kept rambling on about.
Evan and Melissa - To me, it couldn't be clearer that these two need to go home. I'm sorry and I feel bad for saying it, but Evan is just BLAH. I'm sooo over him. All he does is make cartoony facial expressions, shrug his shoulders, hop around a lot, and do several bell kicks. Every. Single. Time. Their Broadway routine was gimmicky and not challenging at all, and it just felt awkward (could it be their weird half-dressed garter costumes?). And clearly the quickstep fell short. Melissa's a great ballerina, but the other two girls are wayyy more versatile.
However, in all of this mediocrity, there was this:
This is the reason I watch this show. Um, no, not to watch extremely muscled men dance and flail and crawl in boxer briefs...but seriously, this is an art form. It's official, I'm on Team Brandon. And no, I did NOT vote for him over 20 times last night after he danced this. Absolutely not.
Posted by Ashley at 11:41 AM 1 comments
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